In this article you are going to learn how to use compassion to increase your profit in business. How to use compassion to simulate the lives of other human beings and use this to talk in “their” language.
The most profitable business skill to learn is compassion
Compassion is the most valuable business skill to learn, it is very significant that every human being have this. The good thing is that you can use it any time you want. But because it seems so natural, the way that you already do it, you never think that you can use it for good instead of evil.
It would be better to think how you can practice it, how you can take time out where you turn-off all the distractions and you don’t watch any TV while you are practicing compassion. There should be nothing except you and a quiet room with your eyes closed imagining what its like to be an other human being, in “their” situation. Thinking about what “their” values are and the emotions that are coming-up for “them”.
Why compassion is the most profitable business skill to learn?
I think of compassion as pro-active intentional empathy. It’s not unconscious like when you’re sitting in a place and someone is in pain near you. That situation makes you want to go help and relief that person unconsciously. In this website you can test how self-compassionate you are live by completing a questionnaire.
Several very successful people that I know, they actually practice compassion and they all came about it almost accidentally, because it is a strategy that works. They were asking questions like:
- Why we don’t practice compassion more?
- Is it just that it got automated and now we are using it for evil?
- Why we don’t realize that we could instead be using this great power to help others and the group?
…and as you might be already aware, brainstorming among a group of highly successful people can create amazing results. A hint appeared that maybe there is something deeper going on with compassion and here is one of the “pet” theories they developed.
Note: This can’t be proved, there is no scientific foundation behind it
- you can no longer blame “them” for anything
- you can no longer get upset at “them” for anything
- you can no longer make “them” wrong in your head
That’s because the more you imagine what it’s like to be “them” the more you realize that:
- you would be doing the exact same thing
- you would have made the exact same decision
- of course if you had the same childhood experience, you would have the same kind of rationalization going on
- you would have gotten upset at the same thing and acted ridiculous too
Now, if you imagine to be another person for too long you lose the ability to behave in a selfish way. That is very threatening to:
- your self-ego
- the sense of “self”
- the self-interest
When you start imagining what its like to be another person and you see the other side, a part of you feels very good because it is creating connection. But an other part of you is very afraid of “engulfment”.
As soon as you begin practicing compassion, as soon as you dip your finger into “their” emotion – “their” experience and to what its like to be “them”. When you start understanding and realizing what is happening, there is a part of you that tries to pull you back, tries to place a limit upon you unconsciously.
The reason behind this, is because “this part thinks” that if you do that…
…you are going to do everything for the other human beings and not for you anymore. That’s not good because you can’t get what you want when you do that. (according to your unconscious thinking)
How & Why to Begin Practicing Compassion? “Costs” Involved
In order to begin practicing compassion, there is a cost involved. There is an underline epic spiritual warfare going on. Underneath everything that is happening, is the battle between your thinking that “they(the others)” don’t get it. You are the smart one, you think that you know what “they” should do and “they” should listen to you.
The other part of the battle is the reality of where “they” are, how “they” are feeling and how human beings work. The result is that favoring the first part doesn’t work where the other human beings are. Now what you need to do is let go of this “me” game you are playing and the mentality that you are the smart one. Also, compassion is the key to good customer service according to Chad Brooks on Business News Daily.
Let go off that and go over there with “them”, get on “their” side and make “them” feel that you are there with “them”. You are in there together, you and “them”. You understand “their” worries and all that stuff that “they” feel bad about, “their” fears, “their” problems because you used to experience the same things too. You have them too, “they” are normal, it’s perfectly ok to be there.
Now the reaction of other humans beings experiencing your extend of compassion to them, would be pure amazement. They will feel that there is someone else there with them and that it is ok to be there in “their” situation. “They” are not a bad person for feeling or thinking the way “they” do and you are not going to make “them” wrong for this.
You are not going to criticize, judge or probe “them” for everything they do. “They” are there with you, together. Acknowledging that you are there with “them”, together, can give you a tremendous leverage point to continue and explain “them” that you know some things which can help you all together get out of this situation.
Thats because you can go out of this situation anytime you want and you can show “them” how. You invite “them” to come with you, you will be together and it is going to be ok. If you noticed, that battle is playing-out here, it is happening now. But I’m going to try to keep this in a business information level.
Why to Practice Compassion? Several Advantages of Doing This
Unless you are investing time everyday, unplugged from everything, with intention, proactively considering what it is like to be another human being, to be in “their” shoes, to be going what “they’re” going through, all the way to the point that you start feeling emotions and get lost in them – I think you are unplugged.
I don’t think that you can get there from here. You can’t talk to the other person like you are in there with “them”, unless you are really in there with “them”. The ability to practice compassion is your birth right, we all got it, it’s not some special power that some people developed because they are so great.
Compassion comes together with all born humans and you might as well use this power with some intention because I think it can make you a lot of money as well as help a lot of people in the process. The danger with this one, is that if you get in there with “them” too often, you actually will start to care so much that it will hurt.
If you keep practicing compassion, you’ll start to actually care so much that you will start losing the ability to just manipulate people to get your own needs met and tell a whole story about it.
Two Different Stories About Where Practicing Compassion Will Lead You
The first story is about the more selfish, more egocentric success oriented person who decides to get in there, to experience how other human beings feel. When these people begin practicing compassion, they get surprised and their heart melts. As a result they:
- turn-out to be more compassionate
- start loving other people
- can’t say things that are manipulative anymore
- can’t say things that are selfish
- can’t sell things to other people so they can just get a commission
- actually always simulate the other people to be sure that everyone is winning
That’s the first story and that’s a good one. That’s the next level, a lot of value comes from that because actually everyone wins, everyone starts doing better. Here is the definition of combining customer service and compassion by Mary Pat Whaley on Linkedin Pulse
The second story is one that it isn’t heard or thought as often. The second one is when people think they are already practicing compassion all the time because they think they love people, they are compassionate. They think they are very sensitive about how other people feel but it turns out to be an illusion, that they are already doing this.
When they actually start practicing compassion and they let go off all of their preconceived notions, all their beliefs from the past, all the ideas that were handed to them from other people — books etc. They let all that go and they get in here with the other person. They realize for the first time that they actually haven’t been being compassionate or empathic or any of that at all.
They just happened to be really emotionally sensitive and they have just been having their emotions triggered a lot. They have been jumping in and simulating parts of it but they really haven’t been practicing compassion it in an unbiased way. The awareness that happens for that person is related but it’s very different and it also brings a tremendous amount of insight and power.
To wrap-up, try to proactively practice compassion. Step inside an other persons experience and imagine what its like. You will definitely be amazed of the things you can learn.