I’m from the people who don’t believe in motivation.
You can’t motivate people, but only influence them and make them feel enthusiasm for the little time period that this emotion will last.
Motivation is something that comes from inside and either you have it or not (and in that case you need to keep searching for what motivates you).
The Story Of a Boy That Turned Out To Be Highly Competitive
I remember, since I was a young boy, I was always involved in sports activities like football, basketball, bicycling, video games, desktop games and go-karting.
All of them highly competitive.
The other teens from the neighborhood and I would set up football “fields” almost anywhere using plastic bottles as “balls,” compete in bicycling in dangerous streets with no lights and car traffic and playing basketball till late at night under the rain.
And I just had to win…there was no other result.
I would do everything possible (and impossible) for my team to win, like delaying, repeating games, cheating in the score and even playing hard to the point of injury.
It was like a fight to me, and I wouldn’t mind sending you to the hospital, to win.
This extreme competitiveness would continue even within my family members where I would get in gruesome fights, which would end up punching each other on the face, with my brother.
Although I was kind, polite and respected my friends, in the game, I was extremely competitive.
Enter Competitiveness. The Secret Behind Motivation
This behavior continued throughout my life till today, where I can better control it and usually avoid accepting challenges I know that will bring up my negative side.
However, what I recently understood was that this extreme competitiveness helped me reach where I am right now.
I could never work as an employee or grow in a structured environment because I always try to become better and overthrow the boss, the director or whoever is at the top of the system.
For me, everything was a competition, but nowadays I can point my competitiveness to help me develop in business, in knowledge, in wealth and in relationships.
Competitiveness is what drives people to become better in the area of their choice.
You see people in your neighborhood who are wealthier and have a better lifestyle than you and you want to have this. You are being competitive.
You see people in the gym who are fit, and their body looks like out of a magazine, and you want to have this for yourself. You are being competitive.
You see people who are more successful than you in business, in your company or with their relationships and you want to have that. You are being competitive.
Competitiveness is the secret spark behind motivation. – Vasilis Stergiou
